Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Parental Anxiety - the "before" emotions

Dear Avery,

Tomorrow you are having your adenoids removed.  We have spent the entire three-and-a-half years that is your life constantly wiping your nose and listening to you snore and the past six or so weeks squirting Nasonex and saline up your nose every evening to shrink your adenoids (it didn't work, which is why we are on the eve of your surgery).  You loved and seem to sincerely miss the Nasonex/saline combination because it meant getting to eat two jellybeans everyday.

And you seem to be responding to the idea of this surgery in the same way you did the nasal sprays - "You mean I can eat ANYTHING I want!?!!?  Juice? Candy? Ice-pops and ice-cream?  So when is this thing happening when I can eat anything I want?"

Your dad and I have had a bit of a different reaction both because we are older and understand more what is about to happen and because you are our child and we love you more than you may think is even humanly possible.  I worry most about the anesthesia.  It is never good.  Weird things can happen.  It makes me nervous.  Daddy is worried about the pain you will feel after you wake up.  We are both worried about the unknown.  We both wish we could fast forward a few weeks from now, but we cannot.  So in the meantime, we are not sleeping particularly well, we are being a bit over-indulgent with you and we are taking lots of deep breaths and trying not to make too big of a deal about this.

When you read this when you are older, I do hope that you will be able to share your more adult perspective remembering back of what it was like to be a child in this situation.

I love you very much,

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

2011 The Halloween That Wasn't

Dear Kids,

I want you to remember the year that you were seven and three (or almost eight and almost four, as you both like to remind me) and the storm that we have just experienced.  For the very first time in your lives, our house was without power for three days.  We stayed with family and friends because it was too cold and dark to stay in our own home and I want you to always remember how kind people are.

Sadly, this is the Halloween that wasn't.  There were too many tree and power wires in the road so it was not safe to trick-or-treat.  You have not yet worn your costumes or gotten any candy, but you have been such good kids an have not complained even one bit.

You will have many Halloweens in the years to come, but I think that this will be the one that you remember most - the Halloween that wasn't.

Thank you for being such good kids.